Friday, May 14, 2010

I have a 16 year old, out of control son. No One can help him. I need serious help please?

My son is now 16. He was diagnosed with /adhd and medicated for years. Now he is out of control. Violent, aggressive, hates the world, and treats everyone like crap. Has no respect and feels the world owes him. Now he is smoking dope, drinking, and not schooling. He has been expelled AGAIN, from another school. He went to school a month ago, on drugs, went nuts, punched a glass door and sliced his arm open. Cut nerves %26amp; tendons. Had microsurgery. Bled alot. Now doesnt look after his arm. Now, because no feeling in the fingers, he burns them with a cigarette lighter. A finger is badly infected, and may have to be removed.


He has seen the best head doctors in this country. The professionals know he is dangerous. No one will do anything about it. He gets away with everything. He hates his father, and expects everyone to do everything for him. I have tried. All of us have. I need some serios advice, because authorities do nothing %26amp; I cant comit him. Please help?I have a 16 year old, out of control son. No One can help him. I need serious help please?
when somebody poses a serious danger to themselves or others, there is no other option apart from them to be placed in the appropriate care. I think you need to keep a record of this, with the police, and with yourself day to day generally. Write it all down, show the professionals you speak of the evidence to make your worries clear. You really do need help and fast.








Whatever happens, I think you need some serious moral support and a break from the constant anxiety that you're in, try to be kind to yourself.I have a 16 year old, out of control son. No One can help him. I need serious help please?
have you written to any talk shows? it may sound corny and un real but they usually have the power to place the children in the facilities that the parents dont have access to.just dont give up on him.

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dont blame yourself.sometimes no matter how much we love them and try to raise them right,sometimes things turn out bad any way.

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If he is doing harm to himself, you might be able to have him hospitalized. Sounds like he might have a chemical imbalance. It could take 6 months or longer for him to accept the help. You are only legally responsible until he is 18 yrs of age. Sounds like reactive attachment disorder. If you have a Mental Health Center in your area, seek some help for both of you....you may need it just for validation.
Contact Dr. Phil
Give him notations(rules)put your foot down and explain how you feel about this andtell him how this can affect him in life.
i tend to agree with the Military or Reform school... send him to military school, and they will make sure he gets his medicine, and he is disciplined...
Military school or reform school
Send him off to the army,if the police won't lock him up,before he starts hurting or killing people and gets death row.He does need help,so good luck.
I don't know if it will help your case but take a look at this web site it may offer you some help and ideas.


http://www.adhdnews.com/
Actually you can commit him and that would be the best thing. There is only so much you can do ';After the fact'; a lot of this is the result of years of problems and you can't expect to be able to fix it now just because you want to.
Sorry to hear that!


Poor boy!


I can not help!
Military.
Oh my gosh. I am soooo sorry. I went thru this when my son was 15. Same exact thing. No one would help me. I checked into counseling, military school, you name it, I called everyone. I didn't know what to do. I had a younger child in my home. I was married - he hated my new husband. He would tell my daughter that when she woke up, she'd find him in a pool of blood. He also told her that we (my husband and I) had to sleep sometime. Like he was going to kill us. My ex (his dad) was no help either. I finally had to have him arrested. They did it because of some of the stuff he wrote. Anyhow, they kept him in jail for 1 nite. Then we had court the next day and my ex showed up to look like he was Mr. Wonderful. The judge ended up making him take my son home with him. My son is now 21 and doing good. Only because of tough love. He knows I had to do what I had to do. I really wish you luck. I feel so bad for you.
i am sorry you are going throught this but i seriously think the only answer is for him to be committed and proffessional help while in there, you are not going to be able to do this alone and i think after you will need a lot of counceling yourself good luck
maybe you should try counselling go with him, has he been through a tough time and not been able to cope with it or talk to you about.
I AM REALLY SAYING THIS FROM EXPERIENCE OF KIDS BUT U CAN CONTROL HIM BY GIVING HIM SUCH LOVE THAT HE BREAKS DOWN.LOVE IS THE ONLY THING WHICH CAN HELP U AND HIM.LOVE HIM TO SUCH EXTENT THAT HE RECOGNIZES HIMSELF IN THE MIRROR.


HE DRINKS GET UR SELF A GLASS AND HAVE A BEER WITH HIM .IF HE SMOKES U TRY TO SMOKE WITH HIM.IT WILL HELP HIM KNOW WHATS RIGHT AND WRONG .HE KNOW THAT THE WORLD DOESN'T REVOLVE AROUND HIM BUT REVOLVES AROUND ITSELF.
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