Help!?! My 11 yr old child has no self control!?

I just spoke with her teacher and she is constantly in trouble for talking. She will just randomly yell things out in class. Sometimes, the teacher may ask a question and expect hands to be raised and she will just scream out the answer! She will start talking in the hall and continually be warned to be quiet, but she just keeps getting louder! She often does these things at home too! My husband and I will be in a conversation and she will just start yelling and throwing her 2 cents in! What can I do to teach her self control? Please help!Help!?! My 11 yr old child has no self control!?
She wants attention and be the center of it. She needs boundaries. When she blurs things out continue as you and your spouse as if you didn't hear her. Do this everytime. She will ask you why you are not listening to her. That's when you let her know that you will not answer her because it is rude and disrespectful to speak when others are speaking.


I told my little girl the same and sat her down and explained to her that you have to be invited into a conversation and always wait till the other person is done speaking. Let her know that a great listener is just as important and a great talker. Good luckHelp!?! My 11 yr old child has no self control!?
You as the parent need to keep telling her that is very rude and bad behavior. It it seems to be a issue have her evaluated it may de a disorder that can be help with therapy. Catch it before it to late. No it is not cute it may get rather embarrassing
I would get her screened for add or adhd, it could be something thats out of your hands, that you guys cant fix, i would def. check it out because if she did have it and was being treated for it, her grades would go way up and so would her attitude/behavior
When she interrupts look at her and say ';Excuse me we were talking, you can wait until we are done or go play'; Every time she does this stop her. She will get the point that you cannot interrupt and stop doing it.
I was like it as well. Is she an aries by any chance?


Anyway, just tell her its really bad behaviour.


She should grow out of it as she becomes more mature. which should be soon. She is at that difficult stage, [pre-teen]


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Maybe you should have her hearing tested. Sometimes people who have a hearing problem talk loudly.
cant do anytin i know a bunch of ppl like dat they always get kicked out of class no matter how many times they neva change
Daddy issues?
When I was young my father would have beat my *** and that made me a good kid
You have to be consistent, and bring it to her attention EVERY TIME that she does it. She should be reminded that she should not interrupt. She should be reminded to ';use her indoor voice';, and she should be reminded that ';Mommy and Daddy need to talk to one another, so please listen quietly, and do not interrupt us';. You can't expect her to just know when she is allowed to talk. You have to provide her with some guidelines that help her figure out in any situation whether it is appropriate or not. If you and your husband are talking, and possibly interrupting one another or raising your own voice, then why shouldn't she imitate you? You have to make it very clear to her what you expect from her, and let her know that sometimes the rules are different for a young person than for adults. Also, look for every opportunity to compliment her when she is doing well.





Mention it to your pediatrician. She may need to be screened for hearing or hyperactivity issues.





Assess her diet, nutrition, physical exercise and sleeping habits. Is she eating too much sugar and caffeine, even if it's hidden in ';fruit snacks'; or ';fruit juice';? Is she getting enough physical exercise? Does she get Omega fatty acids in her diet? Does she get enough sleep? Does she sleep well, or is she having allergies or some other problems with her breathing? These are all things that can affect her mood and addressing them can help her to be more calm and attentive.





Also, look at her routines. Is she spending a lot of time watching TV and playing with friends? My own experience is that when my kids are getting too excitable, we can calm them down by setting reasonable limits on visiting with friends, and turning off the computers and televisions. We can almost guarantee that if they have a sleepover and then spend the day playing with friends, they will they will get loud and forget their manners, and have trouble with listening and doing what they are told. If they've spent over 24 hours with a friend or friends, then expect trouble.





Think of the TV shows they are watching. If you randomly turn one on, you may discover that the kids on the show are yelling or talking loudly or interruping at that very moment. That's because that's what they are doing most of the time on those shows. I have my TV plugged into a power strip, and when I feel that we need less TV, I flip the switch on the power strip. When they come in and turn on the TV, and it won't go on, that's their cue that they will have to ask Mom or Dad if they want any TV. For the time being, the TV is OFF.





Another approach, of course, is positive reinforcement. What are you willing to offer your child, if she makes it a week, or 2 weeks, with no complaints from her teacher about excessive talking? I am sure that there is a something that your daughter really likes, a trip to the water park or a trip to the movies, that would inspire her to buckle down and get this under control at school.





Best of luck!!