I am 46 and not in control of my life - no collateral - no job - depressed - help?

Please help! Am alcoholic - suicidal - low self-esteem, guilt, ashamed of my life. Family don't want to help! Oldest son just had life saving operation through getting attacked and just got through to Navy for career that he cant do. Partner that can't cope with me. Should I be on my own and forget everyone in my life to cope and get better to be better for them. Am trying to help myself but my life is **** - how can I make it better.I am 46 and not in control of my life - no collateral - no job - depressed - help?
i was in a similar situation but pulled myself out of it. mine was so bad that it effected my sleep aswell i was proper depressed cos i had no job got scammed on ebay twice and lost over 拢500 and couldnt get it back. How i overcame it was simply being sexually active i dont know why but having sexual encounters by meeting new people online seemed to help me. Try asking your partner for an improved sex life it does seem to help and most importantly if you feel that it is bringing your relationship down then this is your best bet. If you have passionate encounters with him then this will surely make the foundations of your relationship stronger and also get him to support you.I am 46 and not in control of my life - no collateral - no job - depressed - help?
Baby steps. Go to AA. Get a job. Workout and start looking good. And bring back the fire in bed with your partner.
Nothing wrong there then !! sounds just like most other peoples lives from time to time , you will get over it , SMILE EVERYDAY .
Tlk to me man, know how you feel, talking is good :)
i am very sorry for you you must not


be on your own it will make it worse


forget the passed go out meet new


people enjoy your self i am your age


been there now i have met new Friends


i have left the past behind me and enjoying


life hoped i have bucked you up a little


you now you can do it but on your own


way is the best way i mean will power


all the best to you
you know you got prblems so you got 2 options first option go away on your own and drink your life away or help yourself and your family and friends and any body else and sort your problem out only you can decide by admitting to your problem you could be on the road to recovery see a doctor mate and take it from there and show every one your not a looser go for it best of luck
I think you need help, go to your doctor right away, there is help out there for everyone! I hope everything works out well, Good Luck!
I an sorry things are not going good for you....the first thing you need to do is get help with your alcoholism.....get the number to AA and call them FAST! Alcohol is a depressant and will only bring you down lower.Next go to a doctor and see about getting on some anti-depressants...there are alot of them out there and you will feel better.You say you have a partner....can you talk to him?? Tell him how you feel..your going to need all the support now you can get.Suicide is NEVER the answer...imagine what it would do to your son....it WON';T be easy...but you can get better!!!!! Also it wouldn't hurt to pray...tell god you need help.....i have had some VERY VERY low points in my life and i know you can do it!! Good luck!!!!
stop drinking
These are the situations where one thinks of what the point of life anyway, is there any purpose, Why do I wake up only to feel sad and what am I trying to do, whats the aim, Why say hello to people why do anything. We start to make our problems and worries disapear by any means, from alcohol to watching movies to ultimately death.





I know iv been in similar situation. But I did find meaning to life and its not an arbitary one but the truth. It is ov course that god created us purely for worship. We ask why does god make paople feel bad or let bad things happen but when you understand the meaning of life it all makes sense. It is in islam that my questions were answered and my role established, Prayer is what gave me hope and continues to do soo.





I advise you to do the same and seek the truth for your self, you can then decide if its right but dont ignore the truth.





I pray that you succeed in life, Take care
Stop thinking about the things that have gone wrong in your life, start thinking about how you can make things better.Without hope then of course you'll feel the way you do.Start doing things that make you happy, get up early open the curtains pull the windows up get some fresh air, put some make up on, clean the house go round and spend some time with your friends,eat well instead of a drink in the morning have a cup of tea with some toast,have baths before you go bed get the candles out and open your bible go to psalms.Your stronger than you think if you want that change go and get it, so what your family dont want to help.Ok so be it now you need to get yourself in the position where they come to you for help.


Stop drinking please, accept what has happend, I know it's hard and it hurts so much you think phically you haven't the strengh but you can do it.


Take care!!
Honey, you have to take the first step yourself. Stop drinking. Go to AA or to an outpatient rehab program. It sounds like you need to see a doctor. There is medication that can help get you through the worst of it. You have to take care of yourself, or you won't be any good for anyone else.
You can't help anyone until you help yourself. Ask a family member to go with you to an AA meeting, the very next one and go! Go every time the door is open and when your family believes that you are trying to help yourself they will change slowly...don''t expect miracles. Go to the meetings and think about yourself. Your kids will have to help themselves, you can't. It's not your job anymore..it's up to them. Get help, stay sober and then in a year you will be able to think of doing something else with your life. You are on the right track. Admitting the problem. Now admit it to them and ask them to go and support you, it will not be easy, but it will be worth it to have your life and family back at least part of the way and then to be eble to work or do something constructive after you are better will be just what you need. I believe you can lick this thing. I saw my mom and my sister do it. My brother is in a home, he's not so good. So, you can do the right thing and change it for the future right now, today. Love coming your way. May God bless and give you strength to do this. Love you.
You are having a nervous breakdown!!


(or you're on the brink of one)





It's fairly common, I know lot's of people who've been through it.





You can get well again!





But do not assume that you will get well without medical treatment.





Unless they happen to be medically trained, your family (or people on this site) are probably not qualified to help you.





Go see your doctor!


If he/she gives you the brush off, demand to see a specialist.





Get the QUALIFIED help you need!
I'm sorry that life has dealt you a bad hand... but we all have to play with the cards we're dealt, and ultimately we're the ones responsible for it.